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Re: Advice for women on BMQ and other courses [MERGED]
« Reply #2250 on: May 11, 2017, 12:59:42 »
If you can tolerate BCPs, one solution is to take certain of the low-dose varieties continuously and suppress your cycle until it is convenient.  Your doctor is the best person to advise you.

The minor inconvenience of carrying around a small package of blister-sealed drugs is much less than dealing with a period and all it entails.  But you do have to take those pills diligently. 

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« Reply #2251 on: May 11, 2017, 14:52:11 »
Excuse me, but you don't have the right to speak for me.
If you can't allow people to talk to you. Your going to have a bad time in the military. You claim that your becoming an officer. That high strung attitude of "you don't have the right to speak to me" will not get you far. Communication is key to a successful team and to the success of the military. Canada even has laws regarding freedom of speech. So when you get mad at people for even having the audacity of voicing their opinions and tell them they did not have the right to do so, is ridiculous. The military has a strong sense of sucking it up and moving onward and getting the job done. I don't even know how you would get past bmoq if you can't accept that people have the right to voice their own thoughts that contradict yours.

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« Reply #2252 on: May 11, 2017, 15:27:12 »
In her partial defence, she did not say "speak to me", but "you don't have the right to speak for me" in response to PuckChaser's "No, she displayed confirmation bias, and only wanted to hear opinions that validated her ideas. Kinda like the Deschamps report".

PuckChaser, of course, was not speaking for her, but making an observation - and a perfectly valid one as well.

But you are completely correct regarding attitude and communication.





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Re: Advice for women on BMQ and other courses [MERGED]
« Reply #2253 on: May 11, 2017, 16:33:54 »
If you can't allow people to talk to you. Your going to have a bad time in the military. You claim that your becoming an officer. That high strung attitude of "you don't have the right to speak to me" will not get you far. Communication is key to a successful team and to the success of the military. Canada even has laws regarding freedom of speech. So when you get mad at people for even having the audacity of voicing their opinions and tell them they did not have the right to do so, is ridiculous. The military has a strong sense of sucking it up and moving onward and getting the job done. I don't even know how you would get past bmoq if you can't accept that people have the right to voice their own thoughts that contradict yours.

Regarding the individual you are replying to,

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Re: Advice for women on BMQ and other courses [MERGED]
« Reply #2254 on: May 12, 2017, 18:22:18 »
If you can't allow people to talk to you. Your going to have a bad time in the military. You claim that your becoming an officer. That high strung attitude of "you don't have the right to speak to me" will not get you far. Communication is key to a successful team and to the success of the military,like reading "to" when someone said "for". Canada even has laws regarding freedom of speech. So when you get mad at people for even having the audacity of voicing their opinions and tell them they did not have the right to do so, is ridiculous. The military has a strong sense of sucking it up and moving onward and getting the job done. I don't even know how you would get past bmoq if you can't accept that people have the right to voice their own thoughts that contradict yours.

There, that's better, isn't it?
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« Reply #2255 on: July 06, 2017, 15:47:13 »
Just wanted to say that this is a very useful thread; it definitely has made me more comfortable with the upcoming process. Thank you!

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« Reply #2256 on: July 06, 2017, 17:03:12 »
Just wanted to say that this is a very useful thread; it definitely has made me more comfortable with the upcoming process. Thank you!


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« Reply #2257 on: May 17, 2018, 08:46:45 »
Hi there! I just accepted an offer with the CAF on Monday & I couldnt be happier.
I am looking for an honest answer about women at BMQ. I got the impression that I will likely be one of maybe four to five. True?
In addition, looking for advice on how to prepare for BMQ.
I currently work out every day. Lift a fairly heavy amount of weight (for my size), run 3-4km per day. Anything else I can work on?
Push ups? Hiking? More "body weight" things?
Thanks for your help!

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« Reply #2258 on: May 17, 2018, 09:00:50 »
In addition, looking for advice on how to prepare for BMQ.

Bettering Fitness Standards while Waiting for BMQ 
https://army.ca/forums/index.php/topic,17044.75.html

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Re: women at BMQ & prep
« Reply #2259 on: May 17, 2018, 09:17:51 »
Hi there! I just accepted an offer with the CAF on Monday & I couldnt be happier.
I am looking for an honest answer about women at BMQ. I got the impression that I will likely be one of maybe four to five. True?
In addition, looking for advice on how to prepare for BMQ.
I currently work out every day. Lift a fairly heavy amount of weight (for my size), run 3-4km per day. Anything else I can work on?
Push ups? Hiking? More "body weight" things?
Thanks for your help!

On your specific platoon you’re probably looking at between 4-9 females (this is only an average, sometimes more, sometimes less) TO START. Guaranteed you’ll lose at least one or two females, due to injury, illness and quitting. (‘Same goes for loss of males as well, and again, those numbers vary.) You’ll meet many females though as course progresses.

For the most part I enjoyed course. Obviously there were a few things I could do without, but many aspects were fun. Stressful at times, yes, but fun. You’ll meet people you connect with very easily and you’ll meet people you clash with from the start. You just have to find a way to work together and get it all done. The ease of creating platoon cohesion depends on the people within it—some platoons come together much quicker than others.

Ref “preparing.” I encourage you to please read through some of the threads about what to expect and specific targets. There’s a lot of good information floating around in the recruiting threads. It sounds like you’re on the right track, but upper-body strength, especially for females, is extremely helpful. The better it is, the easier you’ll find basic. Be able to pump out at least 25 push-ups (hands positioned below shoulders, so more tricep strength), deadlifts are very helpful, be able to run 8-10km without feeling like you’re doing to die. The better your cardio, also the easier you’ll find basic.

You’ll encounter people who are in bad shape or just mediocre. Don’t be one of them. Your risk of injury is greater not being fully physically prepared. You’re over-tired, hungry and stressed in a way you’ve probably not experienced before, so your body wont be as resilient.

Overall, try to enjoy the experience. While you’re in it, it sucks sometimes. But it flies by when looking back and a lot of good memories are created. Best of luck.

« Last Edit: May 17, 2018, 09:21:07 by BeyondTheNow »
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Re: women at BMQ & prep
« Reply #2260 on: May 18, 2018, 23:40:47 »
Hi there! I just accepted an offer with the CAF on Monday & I couldnt be happier.
I am looking for an honest answer about women at BMQ. I got the impression that I will likely be one of maybe four to five. True?
In addition, looking for advice on how to prepare for BMQ.
I currently work out every day. Lift a fairly heavy amount of weight (for my size), run 3-4km per day. Anything else I can work on?
Push ups? Hiking? More "body weight" things?
Thanks for your help!

Work on your 'imposter syndrome' https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Impostor_syndrome

Everyone on Basic Training has it. It's just that women can suffer more from it because it's a traditionally male environment. My experience is that women can make excellent soldiers, just like anyone else, but many don't believe they can do it, which is complete BS.... and the biggest problem.

My advice is to give it 150% all the time, every day, and don't listen to the interior critic. Except the one that says 'You can do better' :)
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Re: Advice for women on BMQ and other courses [MERGED]
« Reply #2261 on: May 21, 2018, 16:22:49 »
This might sound silly, but as a woman that typically doesn’t wear my hair back is there any advice on the military hair bun requirements? I think I need to practice my bun skills. Also, have any women that are on oral contraceptives considered skipping their periods while on basic? I am contemplating it.

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Re: Advice for women on BMQ and other courses [MERGED]
« Reply #2262 on: May 21, 2018, 16:26:50 »
This might sound silly, but as a woman that typically doesn’t wear my hair back is there any advice on the military hair bun requirements? I think I need to practice my bun skills.

This may help,

Hair Regulations - Female Members of CF 
https://army.ca/forums/index.php?topic=35327.0
6 pages.

Also, have any women that are on oral contraceptives considered skipping their periods while on basic?

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Re: Advice for women on BMQ and other courses [MERGED]
« Reply #2263 on: May 21, 2018, 17:49:18 »
This might sound silly, but as a woman that typically doesn’t wear my hair back is there any advice on the military hair bun requirements? I think I need to practice my bun skills. Also, have any women that are on oral contraceptives considered skipping their periods while on basic? I am contemplating it.

Use gel/product in damp hair and those bun-makers, available at any drugstore or even some dollar stores. ‘Super quick and easy. A good hair net and a couple of bobby pins and your hair won’t move. (The product is a must, as it helps control fly-aways, which staff will look for.) I find my hair to be much less sturdy when I’ve made my own bun, even using a hair net and bobby-pins. The aid keeps the bun in place and tighter much longer. (Caveat: If your hair is exceedingly long and/or thick, some people find the bun can be too large and it interferes with the beret, so you might need to cut your hair.) There are many how-to videos on YouTube and/or Instagram to get you started if you’ve never tried one before. The mesh type will slip less throughout the day and is generally less expensive, the other provides a more sleek and natural look.

Ref skipping your cycle: Yes, some females purposely take their pills right through course in order to avoid the hassle. Whether or not that’s a route you specifically want to take is up to you. You know how your body will handle the adjustment.
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