your application maybe "slowed-down" for numerous reasons, but i don't think being female or having certain ideology have to do with that.
best thing to do is -if you think someone is treating you negatively or don't like you, in military or anywhere else in life- take what you need from them because you need them and get done with it.
i'm not a female, but in my case, my application has been slowed down for all possible reasons and took almost 3 years and i could have used excuses "oh, they're being racist or treating me different cause i'm an immigrant", ranging filling and re-filling forms i didn't need to, mistakes from recruiting ctr, misunderstanding, doing and redoing things i didn't necessarily had to, all the way to my entire application getting lost. but i always kept positive attitude and kept constantly checking with the local recruiting office every month or so for any updates, any thing i need or can do, ....etc.
i'm not here to "preach" you or anybody else, but one thing i learned is that i don't like playing the "victim" or "weak" character and whatever it is that may put you in that "race, gender, religion, colour" i use it as motivation and not let it hold me back and to work even harder to prove them wrong.