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Hi, I have never posted on a forum before so not too sure how to go about doing this. I am just looking for some information/comments/input from anyone who is registered with the Forces already. The situation is this in a nut shell. My husband has recently decided to join the Forces (right after our first child was born) and I am having some concerns with his choice which I feel are very valid. I first off asked him why he was planning to do this and he answer was that he is tired of his current job (which I knew he has been unhappy for awhile), he wanted a job that was new and challenging and he wants our son to be proud of him (which how can you argue with that?). My concerns are for our future as a couple and family. We have been inseparable since we started dating (which is for 9 years now) and how we have a 3 month old son, if he ends up joining he will be away from us for long period of time and once done his basic training, schooling and then posted somewhere, my son and I will not be moving due to financial reasons (I have a very good paying job here) and I have also told him many times over the years that this is where I want to live, I have lived in this area for almost my whole life. I also don't want to be moving our son all across Canada when all of his family is here and honestly that's not the type of life I want for him or myself. My husband feels that being apart wont be that bad but we have never been apart for longer than 5 days and he seemed to have trouble with that and now we have our son that will rarely see his father which makes me very sad. But I also don't feel like I should have to pack up and leave everything behind because he decided to do this all of sudden, he never mentioned his interest until a couple months ago. I am also very worried about his safety as this is a career that in my eyes is quite dangerous. Could anyone let me know about how often I could expect to see my husband (as in how much time you have off)? Also are there any members of the CF that may have had any separation issues when joining? Or if anyone has any input or comments that would be great, I would greatly appreciated. And sorry if this post sounds like some sad journal entry, just looking for some feedback and don't know where else to turn.