Hey All,
I looked at all the topics on this thread and didnt see anything relevant to my question. Sorry if this is a repeat post.
My question is this. I've worked with the same employer for the last 9 years (roughly). It seems i need several professional and personal references. Sadly, my current supervisor doesnt like me (long story, but we were friends and recently had a falling out. WIthout getting into details, he would likely not even attempt to shine any good light on me). Because of this, my branch manager only gets the information my supervisor provides. Im concerned this could affect my application. I dont know any professional "references" outside of work. I rarely see the doctor, I dont have a lawyer i use for anything, i never go to the bank. All i have is my wife and 1.5 year old son. Her family, my mom and siblings and my friends family from years back.
I've basically become a bit of a hermit. I've been burned by poor judgement in friends so I just have a very select few and besides working and coming home to my house and wife and son, i dont get out much so i have NO idea what kind of references i can use.
I guess my question is - does anyone have any other suggestions as to who i can use for references? Or if not that, is there some kind of way to test my character as a person? Sounds ridiculous, i know but I'm honest about everything and have nothing to hide.. its just i dont know enough people to provide references.
OH and recently, someone left my current workplace and she asked for a reference and its against "my companies policy to provide references". Soo, even if i did want to - i couldnt. Im screwed i think
Anyway, thanks much for any enlightenment in this situation. I've been reading up for a couple weeks now and finally was reading into the application process and realized.. damn... i dont know anyone.
This is one of the biggest choices i've ever had to make (applying for the military) and its been a long process even getting here. Discussions with my wife and all that stuff. I just want things to go as smoothly as possible and hope that as long as i pass everything else with flying colors that this wouldnt necessarily be an issue.
Again, thanks kindly and sorry for the long-windedness of this post.
Kindly,
Ken M.
I looked at all the topics on this thread and didnt see anything relevant to my question. Sorry if this is a repeat post.
My question is this. I've worked with the same employer for the last 9 years (roughly). It seems i need several professional and personal references. Sadly, my current supervisor doesnt like me (long story, but we were friends and recently had a falling out. WIthout getting into details, he would likely not even attempt to shine any good light on me). Because of this, my branch manager only gets the information my supervisor provides. Im concerned this could affect my application. I dont know any professional "references" outside of work. I rarely see the doctor, I dont have a lawyer i use for anything, i never go to the bank. All i have is my wife and 1.5 year old son. Her family, my mom and siblings and my friends family from years back.
I've basically become a bit of a hermit. I've been burned by poor judgement in friends so I just have a very select few and besides working and coming home to my house and wife and son, i dont get out much so i have NO idea what kind of references i can use.
I guess my question is - does anyone have any other suggestions as to who i can use for references? Or if not that, is there some kind of way to test my character as a person? Sounds ridiculous, i know but I'm honest about everything and have nothing to hide.. its just i dont know enough people to provide references.
OH and recently, someone left my current workplace and she asked for a reference and its against "my companies policy to provide references". Soo, even if i did want to - i couldnt. Im screwed i think
Anyway, thanks much for any enlightenment in this situation. I've been reading up for a couple weeks now and finally was reading into the application process and realized.. damn... i dont know anyone.
This is one of the biggest choices i've ever had to make (applying for the military) and its been a long process even getting here. Discussions with my wife and all that stuff. I just want things to go as smoothly as possible and hope that as long as i pass everything else with flying colors that this wouldnt necessarily be an issue.
Again, thanks kindly and sorry for the long-windedness of this post.
Kindly,
Ken M.