Mate, I hear what you are saying...I understand that and I agree that Hamas is vile, but to what end? Short of genociding every single man, woman and child in Gaza, how does Israel ever hope to find some sort of reconciliation with these people? By starving out the innocent, they're just generating new recruits for Hamas or the inevitable worse factions that will find Hamas insufficiently extreme in the future.
And like you, and everybody else here, I don't have any answers to any of the questions being asked.
I've contemplated a few times (while all by my lonesome self) if the Israel vs Gaza situation will inevitably result in the 'genocide' of the Palestinians in one form or another.
(Important note here - I'm not suggesting the Israelis are committing, or would commit, a Rwandan style genocide)
But I have often wondered if this will be the beginning of the end of the Palestinians. If a majority of them are relocated during reconstruction, even if its intended to be temporary, I doubt many of them would end up returning. (A mass relocation isn't even being discussed as far as I'm aware, so that point is moot)
But if the world agreed to a total relocation of the Palestinian population, I dont think it would take long before any Palestinian-specific traditions slowly just disappeared.
(And with each new generation, those traditions would become less & less common...and eventually would just disappear altogether. So a form of genocide, in a way. Cultural genocide if you will.)
We have a population that's been taught from a very, very young age to hate Israel and to hate Jewish people (both of which are a stone's throw away, literally...)
And that hatred has now been reinforced, as much as humanly possible, by Israel's actions in Gaza.
(Whether those actions are justified or not isn't the point. A kid who's house has been blown up and who has lost siblings or parents to Israeli military action probably isn't concerning themselves with whether the current situation on the ground is justified or not...)
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I don't know if anybody anywhere knows the right answers to the questions you are asking. I sure don't.
Can they eventually live in harmony, side by side? Doubtful...it would take several generations just to breed the hate out of them. (And the hate isn't just coming from the one side either, but I get the feeling it's a lot more pronounced and on the surface on the Palestinian side)