PAT Platoon and Young Family Problems/Questions
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Is there not a period of time that one must serve before entitlement to PAT leave?
He's fairly sure to be able to get weekend leave, annual (depending on how much he has), stats and maybe even some short or special if he lets his supervisor know the situation.
He's fairly sure to be able to get weekend leave, annual (depending on how much he has), stats and maybe even some short or special if he lets his supervisor know the situation.
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Are there absolutely no services locally that can help you? The Hospital, can offer advice on what is available. Have you contacted the local MFRC where you live?
I hate to be the harbinger of bad news, but you have better get used to the military way of life. Consider your husband's posting as an isolated posting. Although he may be in the PRTC (Post Recruit Training Center) (They still call it that in Boreden, not PAT, I know semantics, but they are different there.....), and may be sitting around doing nothing for now, a course may be able to be formed based on the amount of other candidates awaiting this course.
You have got to learn to figure out how to use local resources to help you manage you, and your family. This may be cruel sounding, but realiz, Hubby and you, have just signed up for the military. And the military will have him posted, or doing things, normal families don't do. It will now be up to you to mange the home base, and not expect or rely, on what you think should be offered to you.
Once hubby has done his training, it will be much more easier, for you to establish your family life. Until then, I suggest you tell your Mummy and Sister to start pitching in. It will be a hell of a lot easier, than wishing hubby can come and be your white knight to save the day.
Seriously, have you two given better thought to this whole, him joining the military???
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I hate to be the harbinger of bad news, but you have better get used to the military way of life. Consider your husband's posting as an isolated posting. Although he may be in the PRTC (Post Recruit Training Center) (They still call it that in Boreden, not PAT, I know semantics, but they are different there.....), and may be sitting around doing nothing for now, a course may be able to be formed based on the amount of other candidates awaiting this course.
You have got to learn to figure out how to use local resources to help you manage you, and your family. This may be cruel sounding, but realiz, Hubby and you, have just signed up for the military. And the military will have him posted, or doing things, normal families don't do. It will now be up to you to mange the home base, and not expect or rely, on what you think should be offered to you.
Once hubby has done his training, it will be much more easier, for you to establish your family life. Until then, I suggest you tell your Mummy and Sister to start pitching in. It will be a hell of a lot easier, than wishing hubby can come and be your white knight to save the day.
Seriously, have you two given better thought to this whole, him joining the military???
dileas
tess
Trying to get help from my Mom and sister is next to impossible. The situation is pretty bad and it's only 6 months until he gets posted and we leave. We have been here for 18 months. A pretty good example is asking my Mom to watch the older two so I can have a shower every two days and I get told to figure it out for myself. The local support for families knows the situation and I talk to a person there about once a week.
I understand the way things work and I also understand that if he is on PAT or whatever you called it that he can get leave for a few weeks IF the family needs him and have been told this by several people in the military from Borden and such. I was curious HOW he would go about this and HOW long it would take.
I understand that his job is going to come first. The big thing for me is that the family support place nearest to us is an hour away and we don't have a car until August.
My family isn't the close knit loving family that most have. I wish it were different, but it's not.
I understand the way things work and I also understand that if he is on PAT or whatever you called it that he can get leave for a few weeks IF the family needs him and have been told this by several people in the military from Borden and such. I was curious HOW he would go about this and HOW long it would take.
I understand that his job is going to come first. The big thing for me is that the family support place nearest to us is an hour away and we don't have a car until August.
My family isn't the close knit loving family that most have. I wish it were different, but it's not.
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Not to be rude here but really I think your answers, and results, are within him and his action or inaction. Not an internet forum, just so you can relay it back.
Your situation isnt the best but not the worse. And no one with a heart would argue you dont need help, but ultimately its down to him at his end. Get him to ask how he can get to his newborn and wife.
Your situation isnt the best but not the worse. And no one with a heart would argue you dont need help, but ultimately its down to him at his end. Get him to ask how he can get to his newborn and wife.
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jr2010 said:
The answer to this is: HE asks HIS chain of command.
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jr2010 said:
Based on the quote above, I'd be asking them to 'move out'.
Tell your husband the best thing he can do is ask for 5 minutes with his MCpl or Sgt once he gets to Borden to explain the situation. They will know the best approach to be taken for how things work and the personalities that exist in his soon-to-be chain of command.
With your hands full with 3 kids and some unhelpful family, and him on BMQ and not familiar with the CF policies and such, its kind of overwhelming sometimes. We could link you to a bunch of regulations and policies but they can be hard to interpret sometimes, even for those of us used to them.
There is nothing wrong with your husband asking his MCpl or Sgt now for some guidance and advice either. Thats what they are there for. If they don't know, they might ask the clerks in the Orderly Room for the regs for leave, etc etc.
Hang in there.
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