Question about holding a Relationship while joining the Army

[sorielly23]

Hi.. I have a girlfriend of 2 years already, and I want to join the Military, shes currently halfway through studying for a degree.

If i get accepted and finish, and when she does, how hard is it to stay together?

 

[Ayrsayle]

There are so many variables involved in your question that an answer is going to be hard to give.  It will depend entirely on who you are as people.

I went thought a very similar situation - we spent just over a year apart while I finished my training and she finished her degree.  It worked for us, and it has worked for many others.  It has also not worked in many other similar circumstances.

You'd need to ask a more specific question for a better answer - you're asking "How hard is it to run a marathon?" - The answer is it will depend on who is trying to run it.

 

[sorielly23]

Well she currently goes to school 5 hours away from me, so i drive to see her every weekend. Long distance is okay, but i dont want to spend all my time away from her.

When i finish training, how often will get to see her??

 

[George Wallace]

Hi.. I have a girlfriend of 2 years already, and I want to join the Military, shes currently halfway through studying for a degree.

If i get accepted and finish, and when she does, how hard is it to stay together?

This topic has been covered already in other threads.  Feel free to read them.

Coles Notes:

Relationships will always depend on the people who are in them.    Any relationship will involve 'work' on all parties to hold it together and at times compromise.  If the people are dedicated to each other, then the relationships will last.  If the people in the relationship are not dedicated to each other, they will not last.  There is no magic wand to wave to make a relationship last if critical ingredients are missing.

 

[Cbbmtt]

Well she currently goes to school 5 hours away from me, so i drive to see her every weekend. Long distance is okay, but i dont want to spend all my time away from her.

When i finish training, how often will get to see her??

No one can answer that question. Depends on where you are posted and every scenario is different. I've lost two relationships within a year since I've been in. You have to be able to accept the fact that the military is first on the priority list, your relationship and family are not.

 

[krimynal]

unless you want to commit to a full relationship ( get married and raise a family ) , then Army comes first and they don't really bother about the relationship you hold outside of the working hours.

you might make it work , might not , every relationship is different depending on what you guys do !

 

[George Wallace]

When i finish training, how often will get to see her??

This is like asking us what you will have for lunch on the Third Thursday of February 2020.

 

[Cbbmtt]

This is like asking us what you will have for lunch on the Third Thursday of February 2020.

You know, the first thing that came to my mind was in the Hobbit Movie, "What's in my pocket?"