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Relationships - A question for reservists

Gryphon

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All of you reservists who have courses far away, or go on tour..

i have a question for you... have any of you had a relationship (not marriage, but gf or bf) that have been able to stand the test of the army?

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Gryphon: Yes, but my significant other is also in the military. I think that makes things a lot easier in some ways, and more difficult in others.
 
Yup.

If both of you work at it, your relationship will survive and can even grow stronger (i.e. "absence makes the heart grow fonder").

It‘s essential to communicate and avoid drifting into a dream world where everything is perfect and there are no "warts" - otherwise the "bubble will burst" when you‘re reunited and reality brings you down to Earth.

Having said that, it doesn‘t hurt to do those little things that make a huge difference (e.g. mailing a "hug" once in a while - I‘ll never forget one of my young tent-mates in Kabul, who had a present from his girl for every day before Christmas - sort of like an Advent calendar - it warmed the entire tent ...).

Remember: there‘s only one thing that improves with neglect ... and that‘s rust.

(and, at risk of becoming the poster child for "there‘s no fool like an old fool", I‘m still enough of a romantic to believe that "when it‘s right, it‘s right" and it‘ll withstand the test of time ...)

Good luck.

Ne dubites, cum magna petas, impendere parva:
His etenim rebus coniungit gratia caros.
(Do not hesitate, when you are seeking great things, to spend a little;
For in such matters good behavior requires expenditures.)
 
My girlfriend left yesterday morning for a 4 month tasking in Borden. I am finding it really hard to get used to her being away but before you know it she will be home, the trick is to think positive.
 
Yes. If you‘re young and the relationship is new, it may mean economic hardship for you but a source of delight to the telephone company. Once the relationship is "mature" enough to be sustained by snail mail and care packages, the costs lessen.
 
I‘ve been dating my g/f for about 1 year and a half and I‘m leaving for BMQ and then MOC training down east right away. In my opinion...a compermise(sp?) has to be made...I‘m flying her down to see me on my BMQ Graduation ceremony and to hang out in Montreal and all that in three months...its just something you have to work on.
Good Luck.

J
 
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