So you've stated that this is something he is really interested in doing - then why not get him in the process now? A quick search will reveal it can, possibly, take some time. Either way, he's not going to Kingston tomorrow, you have time to talk amongst yourselves, talk to family, weigh the options, create a contingency plan. Life happens in between.
Personally, and maybe I have you wrong, it appears that short term pain for long term gain is not something you're very keenly aware of. I gather, based on your posts, that you guys are in your early 20s. Like shitloads of life ahead of you. Doing something now to get ahead when you're in your 50s, and your daughter might be needing a hand up, is only going to benefit you.
To the two statements I saw that made me cringe:
KellyB said:
I want to educate myself on this first before I agree for him to see a recruiter.
KellyB said:
After all my researched I've decided to let him go ahead with his decision.
If I ever caught wind of my wife saying things like this1 we would have a serious tete a tete. Your points about you guys being a team are duly noted, but you need to remember that you aren't the only one on your team, and your team should not have a Captain. Yeah, you should have reality based discussions, bu the way you come off is like a control freak. I am willing to grant that it might be a tone via type thing but you appear to have doubled down on it.
A buddy of mine went through something very similar only he found NO support from his partner. He ended up making the very difficult decision to bail on the relationship and went through loads of shit for that because of their posessions, finances, and child. Ten years on he has told me it was the best decision he ever could have made and that his young fellow got past it - and they probably have a better life now because of the decision he made then. I remember the day he left her very well (he ended up crashing on my couch after all), he told me, over a few beers, that he left it because she had told him
she would not allow him...2. Food for thought.
1She wouldn't I do not think ever utter anything remotely like this, which is one of the very many reasons I fell in love with her. Unconditional support.
2Yeah, I get that you
are allowing it - my point is the use of the terms.