Joining the Forces with my Husband...

[seriana]

Hello everyone!

My husband and I are thinking about joining the CF, but haven't talked to a recruiter yet.  I'm trying to do as much research as I can before we do just so I have an idea of what to expect, and what kind of questions to ask.  I've gone through several pages on this site, and read the FAQ but still have one concern:

If we both join (he wants to go infantry, and I'm thinking infantry or armoury) will we be able to be posted together somewhere?  I haven't heard too much about military couples and I'm concerned that we won't be able to see each other very much, or at all.  It seems that the military comes first and I can understand that (it's not a career for everyone I realise) but would like to know what we could expect.  Obviously I have no problem with being seperated for basic training and all of that, but I'm looking long-term - can you have a normal relationship if you are both enrolled? (Such as seeing each other daily, etc.).

Sorry if this is redundant (or in the wrong forum) but I tried to search for this and didn't find anything helpful.

Thank you for your replies. 

 

[043]

Glad to see that you are doing research. Lots of people come in blind. I can only speak of my own situation because I didn't join with my wife. I met here after a few years in. I have had couples working for me, within the same Platoon/Troop/Flight. What ever you want to call it/. It works, and it is not a problem unless they make it a problem.  They even deployed together twice (Afganistan) and have so far done all of there courses together. Not a big deal in many peoples eyes. I am of the opinion that it is better off in the long run to keep them together because with the operational tempo of today, it is quite possible that if they aren't in the same sub-unit, they could potentially be apart for a year instead of together for 6 months. If you don't understand that, I will try to fill you in.

My 2 cents.

PS. I'm not knocking that Infantry by any means because the majority of the time I wish I was one, but go Engineer, we have the best of both worlds! Infantry is our secondary role and blowing shit up is our primary.

 

[seriana]

Thanks!  That's pretty hopeful.  I can't see us making things a problem - so long as we are clear on the rules.

And blowing crap up sounds pretty interesting as well.  >

 

[Armymedic]

If he is set at trying infantry, then a service support trade like supply, medic, clerk, etc, may be a better option for you. Then you will not work in the same places and have somewhat different daily experience.

The short term downside, is your training will be apart, but postings together are much easier.