BeyondTheNow said:I think it’s crucially important to be aware that these types of issues can be painful triggers for some coming from all sides of the spectrum—assaulted, accused & falsely accused. Perspective and empathy are greatly needed here. We don’t know much, if any, about people’s backgrounds on these boards unless they’ve decided to share experiences which have lead them to feeling the way they do about topics which have the potential to become emotionally charged. And many aren’t comfortable doing that.
As evidenced a bit through my later posts in this thread, I’m frustrated and highly skeptical of all parties involved now, especially after reading the transcript. That being said, I want to explain a few things from my own perspective & experiences (which I’ve decided to do based off a few of the comments made).
The reason I’m frustrated is because when situations like this occur where the complainant and/or accused don’t (appear) to be telling the whole truth—and let’s be clear...while the complainant’s version of facts are questionable, the accused’s are just as much...then it’s harder for every single person coming after them to navigate their own situation. Again, that applies to both the complainant and the accused in any situation.
I’ve mentioned I was sexually assaulted outside CAF in another thread. (Personally, I hate the term “sexually assaulted.” It’s unclear because it now encompasses everything from inappropriate touching/fondling to full-out penetration.) So let’s be clear—I was raped. I was a teenager. I attempted to tell one person who I deeply, deeply trusted. Do you know what happened? That person told me they didn’t believe me. Do you know what happened next? I didn’t tell another individual for well over 20 years.
As I look back now, after maturing, therapy, coming to peace with the event and moving on with my life, I can recall every vivid, scary, painful detail through a calm mind. But then? Being young, as well as being scared, confused, angry, feeling alone, feeling violated and having my worst fear come true on top of it all?—which was not being believed? I absolutely know that details changed and I left things out or put them back in as I tried to recall things through a racing mind and lack of full comprehension of my emotional state. So, my point is that a victim’s story having inconsistencies isn’t necessarily indicative of the incident not having occurred and falsely accusing another. Furthermore, increased trauma is absolutely added to the entire situation when the victim is facing skepticism, coldness and a lack of understanding and/or pressure to recall everything.
On the flip side, while I’ve never been in the situation, I can absolutely empathize with an individual who’s being accused of an assault which never took place. And when the repercussion is the loss of everything the individual has worked hard for, then it’s even more devastating. I don’t to have personally gone through the situation to understand how difficult it could be for another.
I don’t think anyone is “disgusting” (or their comments) for expressing their POV, nor do I think it was necessary to scoff at another person’s equally-as-passionate feelings towards words expressed. As I said, circulation of these types of situations can be triggers for different people for different reasons.
Humphrey Bogart said:...if your story is found out to be false you should be held accountable.
stellarpanther said:Another concern I have and everyone else should have is the matter of the claim. As a previous RMS Clerk, I can't even remember how many times people tried to claim things they are not entitled to claim. Not once was someone disciplined for it. They either have items removed and told they can't claim them or if it gets through and later caught, the claim is amended and they need to pay back the things they shouldn't have been reimbursed for.
Eaglelord17 said:its not like these people were just lying waiting to have these people charged for no reason.
sidemount said:This.
Quite a few times Ive seen the CoC tell someone they are entitled, yet a simple check of policy would indicate otherwise. And unfortunately its the member that ends up paying back. However that being said, i think everyone should be checking CBIs and CFTDIs and be familiar with them. I see lots of issues with people not knowing every day.
This is where my first comment on this topic came from. Did the original grievance wrt claims get upheld and then reversed because "CoC said it was g2g" and then then the analyst did an "oh crap, it doesnt matter, we have to follow policy"
Maybe the same situation with the CDS. Outside review says the member was good, yet ignored policy and the CDS was just following it?
Tough to say without the finer details. But is a question worth asking.
stellarpanther said:In the article, it mentions that the mbr could now possibly be CM's because of the claim issues which is something that I take issue with. Trying to claim things they shouldn't be happens all the time with nothing more than a "you can't claim that". Nobody gets charged for trying to claim something they shouldn't be.
The rest of it, since I'm not a legal expert of grievance expert, I'll keep my opinions of it to myself.
SeaKingTacco said:This is entirely false. People can and do get charged all the time for improperly claiming things they are not entitled to. I have personally seen it happen. Ask the chief judge of the CAF about it: he is currently facing a court martial of his own for this very thing.
You, the member, are responsible for what you claim. Not the RMS clerk who processes the claim and not your CO who approves the claim. Pro tip: regardless of your rank and time in service, male an effort to understand CFTDIs and the CBIs. If you are not sure: ask. If you are really not sure: err on the safe side and don't claim it. Is your job worth a few bucks?
SeaKingTacco said:This is entirely false. People can and do get charged all the time for improperly claiming things they are not entitled to. I have personally seen it happen. Ask the chief judge of the CAF about it: he is currently facing a court martial of his own for this very thing.
You, the member, are responsible for what you claim. Not the RMS clerk who processes the claim and not your CO who approves the claim. Pro tip: regardless of your rank and time in service, male an effort to understand CFTDIs and the CBIs. If you are not sure: ask. If you are really not sure: err on the safe side and don't claim it. Is your job worth a few bucks?
stellarpanther said:Maybe it does happen but in over 16 years, I have never seen a person charged. As an example, when a mbr is authorized a rental car, they are to get a intermediate sized car. I've seen more than a few come back trying to claim a SUV and a separate charge for a GPS which is not claimable. One of them was picked up by an audit. The only thing that I've seen happen is they are told they can't claim it and only get to claim the amount that a intermediate car would have cost. If it was already paid out they pay back the difference.
stellarpanther said:Maybe it does happen but in over 16 years, I have never seen a person charged. As an example, when a mbr is authorized a rental car, they are to get a intermediate sized car. I've seen more than a few come back trying to claim a SUV and a separate charge for a GPS which is not claimable. One of them was picked up by an audit. The only thing that I've seen happen is they are told they can't claim it and only get to claim the amount that a intermediate car would have cost. If it was already paid out they pay back the difference.
SeaKingTacco said:Fine. You have never personally seen anyone charged for it.
I am telling you that I have personally seen people charged and found guilty for it.
Which is all to say that the Cpl in question cannot necessarily tie his disciplinary issues over a claim to his "whistleblower" status. Being a hero in one situation does not give you a shield in other situations.
Humphrey Bogart said:Go on the Court Martial page, there are three Recent Decisions related to fraudulent expenses just from this year.
Jarnhamar said:In the context of this story it looks like the cpls coc was looking for reasons to charge him. Common tactic to punish someone in a round about way.